Happiness, is it even possible.

[fearless]

Well Cemar I don't mean to be that much of a downer!!!

While I do not view happiness as a particular goal in my life, people who know me and meet me always seem to comment how happy I seem. Even when I was separated from my xH the first time, people at work had no clue of the inner turmoil. And surprisingly there were many things that were happy in my life. Obviously I was all alone and on top of that I kind of hated my job. But I was focused on doing the best I could at work, I had met a great friend at work and we had a lot of fun together, I worked with some great people, I lived in a great house, I tried to use my alone time (focused on the benefit as much as possible) to nurture MY soul - less TV, less alcohol, quietness, eating on my schedule, etc.

Maybe the point is not so much to give up on happiness, just do not fixate on NEEDING it. Happiness is one of the things you sometimes look back on and realize later rather than right at the moment.

or think about this, what if you changed what you thought you needed to be happy? What if it made you happy to have an answer when your wife asks what your plans are for the weekend? What if your plan for the weekend is something that gives you pride in yourself? What if what you decide to do is something you are giving yourself?

Life is not easy.

"Of course it's hard, it's supposed to be hard. It's the hard that makes it great. If it wasn't hard, everyone would do it" from League of Their Own

Just think you and everyone here IS truly doing something GREAT. Maybe I am corny but just thinking that made ME smile.