I was able to find out some of what the ow was saying to my H, I found out his cell phone code and listened to messages she left him. She seemed to be playing damsel in distress, saying there were prowlers around her house or people of a certain race were walking down her street, and she wanted my H to come check them out. She also would tell him she appreciated how hard he worked. Pathetic, considering his entire paycheck went into our account and she saw none of what she was admiring him for. I think they will try anything to get them, and resent anyone telling them it is wrong. I mean if your H cheats on you, and you go after some other womans H, what does that really say about you?
I would like to know what you decide, are you going to do the right thing, or will you do what you know is wrong, but is easier for you?
Yeah, I agree that your posting here gives us some insight into the ow, and what makes people like you tick. You let us into a side of things that although we detest, we also can possibly learn from it.
As you have read from the responses you have gotten, your side isn't very popular here, and even though some will defend you, by using stories from the Bible like the woman caught in adultery, and casting the first stone, your unrepentance is what makes those of us who are willing to forgive our H's and work on improving our R's so very angry.
So, I don't know if you will stick around long enough to read all these posts, or if you will wait for another month or two, and post again under another name, just to stir things up a little. Just for the sake of all those involved, step back and see that what you are doing is wrong, you are absolutely wrong in this.
