Huband just moved in with OW

[TabD]

Oh Honey, I am sorry about the flu, your right, look what stress can do...

Thanks for the pointers on Detaching, somedays I think it will be better when he is gone and easier for me, but yet i am scared for that day to come! You say to think of the insane things he has done. I can think of the past, b/c right now he H has been GREAT. and I don't want to think of the past, it is the past and there is nothing we or anyone can do to change that... I don't want to think about the future either, I don't want to think of H actually leaving our home we have together.... is that wrong of me?

I just get so confused on things that H says. Like Monday night he sat down and paid bills with me, he has never done that before, and as we were sitting there we were looking out side at the "mess" this weather is causing. H asked about finances and if he thought in the next few months or sometime this summer we could purchase a pressure washer so he could keep the patio clean as well as the garage and cars. I said we will wait and figure out financing in a couple of months b/c we have court with his Mom on 04/26/07 for "grandparent visitations". Long story maybe I could fill you in sometime. The reason I say this is b/c he has been head strong that when this is over with his Mom that he is moving out. this with his mom has been going on for almost 3 years (3 in May)

So I think if he does go it will make life better or should I say easier, but then I think that the way he has been acting the past 3 weeks is like the "old" guy is coming back. H has been more touchy feely (like he was in the past) and also much more snuggly at night. And let me tell you the Sex has been GREAT the last few times. Feels like to me that H is "trying"

I am still taking it day at a time and trying to make the best of everything that happens. B/c I have decided that i have to make my days GREAT... no one else will right?

You are such a great person helping OW's H... but that is Great if things are working out for them. I never like to hear or see someone getting a D... But my next thought is where does that leave your H if she does leave him? will H just come running back or take it out on you! I know you will protect yourself I just fear that for you... Oh wait here I am talking about the future

Danu, please take care of yourself, you will get better and out hooping it up before we know it.

hang in there