"No matter how successful we are at work, women are judged by the condition of our households. We feel guilty if our homes aren't beautiful. We assume we're the point person for this stuff. We've got hundreds of years of tradition telling us that we are."
This is (a big reason) why MsHairdog calls Hairdog to complain about the towels. She knows she needs him to pitch in, but she is ultimately responsible for the condition of her house. The condition of the house is a reflection on HER, not him. People (or she) will judge HER on the condition of the house, not him. The sad thing is that it isn't likely that men will be doing the judging. Most of that comes from other women.
I know what this feels like because I've struggled with it for years. I do OK letting things go on a day to day basis, but I become a crazed lunatic when we're expecting company. I mostly feel disgusted with myself for letting things go. I never see it as H's fault because the house is my responsibility, especially now because I'm a SAHM.
I'm sure this is a common denominator among LD women.
