In speaking yesterday, my W told me that the reason why she has resisted "coming back" to me has been that she still feels extremely hurt by our marriage.
In fact, she compared herself to an animal left outside in the cold.
She volunteered her perception that if she could get beyond this hurt she would be able to come back. She also said that she doesn't know how to do this.
She mentioned that she would have to read some books about it or something.
I simply said that I was there if there was anything I could do for her.
Mind you, this part of the conversation came after her observation that we had "drifted apart," the proof for which she found in the fact that I didn't know how the marriage was making her unhappy.
(I knew she was either depressed or very, very unsatisfied with CERTAIN THINGS in her life, but didn't know that the problem was me. Of course, that sounds familiar, doesn't it?)
My response: "Sorry. But I couldn't read your mind. Etc. Etc." Communication problems all over the place in the past are not exactly easy to hurdle when you're VERY careful about what you say.
Anyway, does anyone have some favorite books or other resources she might benefit from consulting?
