I didn’t know you were here since September, for some reason I was thinking your bomb date was closer to mine, 20 December. Sorry you’ve been in the bucket of crap for so long.
Your right, I realize I have little ability to change my wife. I have read about doing 180’s and other self improvement tactics, I’m not trying to be conceited here, but I’m just not a bad guy to start with. I guess the best 180 right now would be a PMA, I do have a hard time with that.
When my wife returns, I have to be able to see my son so there will be some contact. I really believe though that my primary problem right now my inability to detach in any way. I have always felt my wife was part of me and I was part of her, so detaching feels like having to cut off part of my own body. Probably no different than most of us though, the longer I’m here the more I realize my sitch is the same as so many others.
I was talking to my oldest sister tonight. She is adamant that my W is insane and I should cut my losses. She’s the Ranger of the family.
Then I spoke with my other sister, who said my wife called her last night and it was the raging angry W on the other end of the phone. She said the W told her she is still very angry and still has to work through that. Well it’s only been 2 ½ months, who could be expected to get over an argument in that length of time (just depressed sarcasm).
