Let me start by saying thanks for responding. I will "marinate" on it and post back tomorrow. Then with a chuckle, I say... you lost me, help.
One thing that I can agree on with you is that they always want to come home and time is always a factor for the LBS. I have accepted time as a factor, even accepting the touch and goes where we as a family spent our weekends together at parks and amusement parks, movies and the mall and dinner just this past summer.
He peeked his head in and then split, I never mentioned counseling or us once over the summer. It nearly choked me not to but I didn't.
It is not for me to gauge per se where he is in this vicious cycle but more to check in on where I am. I guess in some ways I am nearing done because I don't think that being in the proverbial line of fire is the best place for me right now. I am getting weary. I stopped initiating contact, am polite but distant, ask no questions from him, don't snoop, have not taken him to court for cs all in attempts to let him see that together we could get over anything. he is still nuts.
I know that they always want to come home. I can see this in my Dad and at least 3 good friends MLC/LBS marriages. Like you said, time caught them in the "gap" and their wives moved on and liberated themselves leaving these men lying in the beds that they made.
I am just trying to get a handle on all of the emotions clashing around. Any helpt you offer would be most appreciated. Please tell me how my actions affect his. I am serious, i need a night light on this one.
So, the million dollar question is how long do you wonder while not really waiting?
Since Sweetheart is back, I would like to know your formula.
Good nite for tonite... this time change has me whacked out today.
