Glad you had a good weekend. Me too. Now I've got the flu on top of a cold. Just goes to show you the physical manifestations of stress! But, I'm feeling good enough to go to work tomorrow, thank goodness.
Detaching was so hard for me with H living here. Now that he's gone it's much easier, even though I know he's with her. I was so hopeful and really believed my H wasn't going to leave that I just took it one day at a time, and if he wanted to be with me I was there for him. He left so infrequently, so my life was about the same until just before he left.
What really helped me to detach are all the insane things he's done since he left. I don't want to be around anyone who would do those things, so I'm actually happy he's gone! Also, I know that he has to go out there and see if the grass is really greener. It's all part of the process. It's just another step for him (I hope)
From what I understand from my male friend who went through his own MLC, they need lots of time alone to think. The thoughts run through their head so fast that they get overwhelmed.
I do have some good news I think.....OW paid her H a visit and it went well. She actually had tears in her eyes, and we're looking at this as a positive sign, along with her silence when he asks her if she's really going to file. She even let him hold her hand, hug her, put his arm around her, etc. We're trying not to read too much into this, of course, but at least she's not yelling and screaming at him anymore.
I spoke with my H, had to call him about getting some money to pay the bills. I reminded him that he was supposed to call me after payday, but all he said was that he was wondering why I hadn't called him. We chatted a little bit, he sounded like himself for once (I know she was there because he covered the mouthpiece and said something). He was very nice. We made plans for him to come over Tues (today) and he wanted to come at 9:00AM (I think so he could visit with me???) Anyway, because I got the flu I called his cell while he was at work and told him I was sick and didn't want to meet today, and told him to call me soon.
That's the update! Ha! Ha! Not much, but enough for a little hope.
Danu
Everything happens for a reason, and through this journey I will learn many things about myself
