Yes, I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU, so don't feel like you're alone. I'm going on 4 months now (except for the two weeks he came home in February) of knowing he was spending almost every night with the OW, having someone else he could talk to and be with when I have to sleep alone, etc., etc. Yes, it sucks.
I CAN tell you that it got easier with time (harder again now after H came home and then left again, so starting over a bit now). It wasn't easier before in that it wasn't still horrible, but once the initial blow started to wear off and I started going out more with friends, getting dresseed up more, going to the gym, etc., etc., the pain lessened a bit. Did it make me want to give up on this? Absolutely not, but it just was a bit easier to cope while I "waited," if that makes sense. You have to look for support HERE, from people who have been there, done that, and know what needs to be done to get through this hell. Your W may be getting support from OM, but they certainly don't know about DBing now, do they? DB, come here as often as you need for support and encouragement, don't think about what they're doing or how or when, but use this time to focus on becoming the best you you can be for W to fall in love with again. I know, it's easier said than done (read my posts...), but that's the advice I've been given and am working on implementing. Don't dwell on what W is doing! She's confused. Let the A die its own death... and hang in there in the meantime, okay?
DB, come here as often as you need for support and encouragement, don't think about what they're doing or how or when, but use this time to focus on becoming the best you you can be for W to fall in love with again. I know, it's easier said than done (read my posts...), but that's the advice I've been given and am working on implementing. Don't dwell on what W is doing! She's confused. Let the A die its own death... and hang in there in the meantime, okay? 
