I remember the MC asking my W what she liked about the OM. I think that was a difficult question for her, with me in the room, and was difficult for me. But if I knew, then I could decide if it's something I could or want to do to attract my W.
But my main point is that the emotions are so strong that they make rationale thought almost impossible. The only way to regain control is to get away from the OP.
If we did scare TSC away, I hope she learned something and will do the right thing.
M45, W45,S15, D10, Bomb 10/3/06, Moved back in 11/6/06, finally ILY 9/07 last thread