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I told him that I would not stand in his way that I still cared and loved him (that is changing though)

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I am most sure that I am done


I want to respond to your post, but wanted to get these things posted first. Which is it?

Of course you can still love him and refuse to take him back...but that wasn't how I read that first quited statement.

Are you saying oyu're done because you do not think he will ever return or because you personally are done?

What do you want?
Before you answer...this is not about what you THINK will happen...what he wants, his directions etc.

Do you want your marriage...to the real person, not the monster...actually to someone improved from the original.

Whether you want tobe married to the present person...we all know the answer...so that is not waht I want you to consider.

HUGS,
RCR