Whatisis,

You make a good point. Trying to understand is often self destructive and takes energy from what we really need to work on.

But, I think there is room for OW and OM to come here and express themselves and be encouraged to NOT be the OP.

M45, W45,S15, D10,
Bomb 10/3/06, Moved back in 11/6/06, finally ILY 9/07
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