Have you asked hubby to help you with putting the kids to bed? If you can get him to participate, that is at least something that the two of you can do together, also, it might keep him awake longer and provide more time to interact.
If you can get him involved with bedtime, then I suggest that you continue to treat him the same, but you reduce the amount of conversation you have with him by half, but only when you are doing things together. That sounds counterintuitive, but some uncomfortable silence may put pressure on him to start a conversation to fill in the uncomfortable silence. Then you let him talk about his interests and you validate him. If you can get him to talk, and he asks about you or your day, answer briefly, then move the conversation back to something that he is interested in.
If you can get him back into the habit of having normal conversations and interactions, then he may more amenable to talk about changes in the relationship a bit later on.
Please let me know what you think.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
