LL is 40...the OW was 30...and she was a gold digger too...and a whore. She thought she could catch him...but if he goes with someone else she will be much younger...probably 25 or so, becuase they are so impressionable and can be in awe of him. Probably that is what your H likes about the OW--the attention, the idea that he is great in all things. We know all their faults and weaknesses and that makes us less attractive.
Honey, all the OW are icky. Nice people don't do stuff like that.
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
i call this ow a predator vali.....she calculating went after my H while still married herself...claiming abuse....she set up a confrontation so my H could "rescue" her and because he was vulnerable....she tipped him good. that was a year ago...while I was away.....good timing huh? She then told her H she was divorcing him for mine and got it in 2 months...FAST huh? My H while lacking in self-esteem to cover it up has been a good walk the walk -talk the talk about how he has....well we didnt really...but he made it sound good. She wanted a meal-ticket.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
A predator? And what do we do with predators....(insert evil grin).
Princess.....your so loving. Your so cute on the phone. I'm sorry if I let you down at the end, but I have major issues concerning our spouses families.
You made me tell the truth! Stomp! I am not supposed to do that, I am supposed to give you support and encouragment. But but.....you know what I said.
But please, don't let that disuade you from doing anything drastic or thinking that things are over.
I love you.
Jeanette
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
He'll wake up eventually, hopefully, not too late. These MLCers have no clue, do they? They don;t realize how much damage they have done. They are lucky that we are still here wanting to hold to something so precious...and love them, love ALL of them, who they are: the good, the bad and the ugly...
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
Sparkles, if we cannot be honest with one another, then who can I be honest with?? I really need honesty, ya know? We get enough lies from the ALiens. I don't believe that you let me down. We are married to Latin men...family ties are mammoth to them. Everything revolves around that.
You DO give me support and encouragement! Do not think for one minute that you don't. Personally, I think I was acting like a raving lunatic last night...not "cute". BLEH.
I won't do anything drastic...I was very glad you and Chica were there to talk me out of some thing that I would be very regretful for today. DOUBLE BLEH.
Love you girl!!!! Can't wait to see you!!!!
Smooches, Valentine
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
LL kept calling yesterday...he was in mediation and wanted it to be over. So he calls me around 7, asking if he settled his case, would I be up to having a celebratory drink with him? I was really surprised by this but said yes. SO, I start talking with Lissett and Jeanette and lo and behold---LL calls to say he settled his case and wanted to meet me at a bar. So we decide on the bar and Lissett and Jeanette were giving me sh*t for running off to meet him.
So, I go and he is already waiting...we have a couple of drinks and are talking about this and that...and he says that he has to "save the world", says he has always been like that...so I say, don't worry about saving me, I can do that for myself. He then starts trash talking my family saying they don't give a damn about me..and I counter with, well, there are people we know who say you don't give a damn about ME, they are amazed that I have stuck it out this long with you, and they tell me to dump your a** and move on. He gets a little riled up says that well he's heard the same thing, that Vali doesn't deserve him, blah,blah, blah.
I said, why are we even talking about this??? So I wanna move on 'cause we are only getting upset by it and he says you're the one who started to talk about it. And I just kept quiet and then I started picking up my purse as this unpleasant turn of conversation was my cue to get the hell outta there. So he walks me to my car...I get in and he leans in and kisses me, I DO NOT kiss him back. He has this evil smile on his face like he likes that he upset me. It was creepy.
Anyway, I think I am just not gonna talk to him. I think he does this to me on purpose. I think he likes to treat me like a rag doll that he can just throw around. He likes to have control and I don't like to be controlled (like most normal people).
I was very concerned about his statement: You know me, Vali, I have to save the world....everyone.
WTF?????
And that, folks, is the crux of his problem. BLEH.
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
My lenten thing was not to talk about my MIL...the OW is fair game for me. Truthfully though, neither one is important enough to me to spend time to talk about.
You'll have to teach me Cuban words as I know only Mexican words.
SMooches!!!
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
I'm sorry Vali, he may be good lookin and hot in bed, but he really turns me off with all his self-inflated ego crap. Is he short? You could start now and you couldn't stroke his ego or his you know what long enough to keep feedin it what it needs.
You obviously really threaten him and he has a real need to keep you down and quashed and controlled.
It's sad. And I'll tell you something else. It borders on scary.
