Just Me, your options are rather limited and kind of dismal in nature! I think there are probably a few others with brighter outcomes. That said, I think what you have mentioned have a number of things big number could use BUT kick him out? I think I would try a few other things and give it some time. If I recall, big number's H just moved back in (if I have read this correctly) and that is a BIG move. I'd advice Tam to be patient and, as you said, control what can be controlled and that is herself. Set some goals, do some things differently and GAL her butt off. That's my 2 cents.
