Wassup! Lissy is acting like she just got here. !

[mrspoolboyz]

My performance with detaching, and letting it roll off my back, has been less than fabulous. Fine I admit it.

Last year, it was easier for me to detach. I had the nasty monster. He was easier to ignore. The OW situation was something i just assumed. I didn't get the admission until last month. 1 year later.

It has thrown me off. I have been more vocal towards puffy, well at least when he first told me about the whore.

I lost control, I let him have it. I don't regret it, I needed to let it out, I was quiet for 1 year.

After I lost it, He has been a tiny bit different. Less ready to spew the evil. More understanding, more ,I am sorry I hurt you. weird.


I have not initiated contact. Since i made a fool out of myself on my bday and told him i missed him. He at first said I have to go, was stand offish, alittle pissy. hung up on me.

Then a few hours later, called me sweet as pie, to talk about my new camera. When we lived together, that was Puffy's way of saying I'm sorry. He would never come out and say it. He would do something nice.

Last night at 10pm Puffy called. I answered b/c I was on the other line talking to Jeanette, and I thought it might of been Vali calling me. So I answered in a cheery nice voice, Helloooooo !

Then I hear Hey! bleh, my stomach fell.

I said yes, (mind you he never calls this late, and he hardly ever calls for me)
He said I just got out of work.
Puffy starts talking about, that he wants to spend more time with the kids.

He sees them Wednesday over night and every other weekend.

Since, I do not know where Puffy lives, he can only spend the night with them, at his moms house.

So we talked about adding another day. He also asked about the kids. I said the guidance counselor has suggested they both have one on one counseling, b/c of the seperation. And My D needs one on one academic counseling with the school.

He said, they don't see me enough. ( I wanted to say whole bunch of stuff, but I bit my tongue ;))

He told me that our son talks alot about my friend Louie. Louie is My kids god father, and my best friend, Louie was Puffy's good friend at one time.

My son calls Louie all the time, to go play, or take him to the movies. Louie never says no to my kids, he was this way, even when Puffy lived at home.

Puffy said I appreciate all that Louie is doing. I said me too.

That was it.

I have to admit his behavior lately, has made me say to myself

HMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMm, what is Puffy up to? The niceness, is very weird.


So, I think that i am collecting my composure, a little bit everyday. Starting to get back in the swing of things, detaching, and trying to just let this go. Bleh.

Jack, was like , Lis, what is the matter with you?


I know, geeesh, the OW, threw me for a loop.

My GERLZ are coming in 2 days, and for the next 4 days I'm sure I will be super detached.


Thanks for putting up with me

[fig]

smooch

[Grace_O]

Putting up with you?

I can't begin to tell you how grateful I am that you're willing to share. I have learned so much from you. Humble head bow.

[lawless]

((((Lissie))))

You are doing more than fine, remember detachment is good but it has it's place and I see nothing wrong in what you have said to the puffer.

I do see a good part in all of this as well, you found out about the OW. Tha A will be much more fun for him in secrecy than it is now that he has been outed. I got a gut feeling the niceness is due to the fact that you found out about OW, now that you know for sure he is probably afraid you will move on so he is trying to pull you in a bit.

You don't have to thank this poolboy for putting up with you, to me it is an honor

[FriendlyOne]

Sweetie,

You just hit a bump in the road, a dip in the coaster, a teeny bit of time out.

No problem. One day soon you'll shake it off, feel much better, be stronger for having survived. You will have grown just a tiny bit more. It's all good.

much love sweetie

J

[Valentine]

Love you princess!!!

I admit that I do not know where puffnstuff is coming from. Maybe he feels guilty.

Look, Chica, we all gotta let it out at one time or another. As long as you recognize it and are okay with it...I know you are regaining your composure...we all are...it's a beautiful thing, ya know?

Everything is gonna be alright....

Love,
Vali

[peaceful_spirit]

Lis,
You had to deal with the bomb on two separate occasions. This was a hard hit for you. Yes, you suspected, but finding out for sure is a whole different ball game. So, you are dealing with learning this disturbing info. You will get back to detach mode.

The other reason you're struggling is becuase puffy is nice sometimes. I know that when they're evil and alien-like, it's sometimes easier to say f- him. I don't need his sh!t. But when they start getting nice, we remember how nice they can be. Then we might accidentally let our minds think that they are coming out of this. Then they spew again. So, that's the other reason it's hard to detach.

Either way, it does sound like he's coming around a bit. Wanting to spend time with the kids is a good sign. He is starting to feel badly for being such an absent father this past year. This is good.

You're doing great. Believe me... you are!

[justbestfriends]

You have made me laugh out aloud more than once. I think you're a star.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

I think I actually said, "Lis what is going on? You're the Queen of Dettachment, but, it's like you just started this whole DBing crap all over again."

And then I asked if you could forgive him.

: )

Thanks for putting up with me...phhhhhhpth.
Now everyone is going to tell you how great you are ; )
And you already know how great you are.

[mrspoolboyz]

Thanks for putting up with me...phhhhhhpth.
Now everyone is going to tell you how great you are ; )
And you already know how great you are.

(stomp) that is not why i said it ! Gosh you are so jealous of the love i get