Okay, now I am getting e-mails from the Luvah asking me how my day went....
Had terrible back pain over the weekend...from the slide down the stairs. Never have had back pain....boy, howdy! does it ever hurt!!!
So he's been concerned about it...and concerned that my SUV needs struts as I think they are shot...he keeps telling me to take it into the garage...but then I would have to rent a car and I don't wanna have the expense...
Again, he is worried about all these things...but I must be patient...in time he will tell me and of course, I love the fact that he at least concerned about me...better than the past.
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
WOW!! CONCERN??!! That is something I have almost forgetten existed with Dr. L.
That's really nice. He is one of the rare ones on the boards that has not totally checked out, and still has the capacity to be "nice." Of course, don't think I don't remember 10 months ago, when I first started on these baords, when he was spewing at you about everything.
I think my H is also one of those that has the capacity to be nice, he always seems concerned about me, even through this whole MLC thing, it's like he wants me and the rest of the world to see him do right by me...he keeps forgetting though that having an affair with a 24 year old office......is not being very NICE !
I miss him in this No contact, but feel that he really needs to MISS me, to see what life is like WITHOUT me in it....only then will he be making an INFORMED choice, because if he stays with her, then that is what it will be like, I will NOT be in his life ! It's harsh but true, I will not be "replaced" by a 24 year old....!!!! Sorry, but I've grown strong enough this past year to know that I am worth more than that !!!
So -- sorry bit of a hijack here -- I guess I was just trying to say that my H is desperately trying to be nice and do the right thing whilst going through his MLC, I hope that doesn't mean that it will therefore take much longer to come out of as he hasn't been able to SPEW !!
Bye for now take care, lots of love
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Always, yes I think we should start a scrapbook! LOL!
No, he has never totally checked out...but was pretty close. 10 months ago he was Mr. Nasty. I keep waiting for him to come back and he does occasionally appear...like last night.
Whatever, he's still got a ways to go...still blaming everyone else.
Bleh.
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
Hey Vali....concern is good.....my H only does it to appease his guilt...it is not authentic.....and sporadic....still deep in the tunnel.....oh yeah my H started up AGain on the woe is me and blaming everyone else (ME) so we KNOW he is nowhere near done.....or ready to even peak. That is why NC works for me....too much contact with him gives me a migraine. I leave him and OW hanging in the putrid breeze of the tunnel.....me? I am leaving all options open.....i cant say I am standing...I cant say I am not standing....i still have a long ways to go though.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
Cinders, I am confused by the fact that he is "concerned" about me...then why have they left? To get themselves together?
I know what you mean about not sticking around if he is gonna be with 24-yr-olds. I cannot compete with a 24-yr-old...I am not 24. And if he thinks that he can find something better, then more power to him. I KNOW I am worth more than that.
Don't be surprised if your H starts spewing! They are lunatics. I have no idea what he will do. Just sit tight, sweets and watch the show...
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
how old is LL? 24 year old.....My stbxh is with a 25 yr old...he is 49...ick......it is doomed....we know this....but she is a gold digger....
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
