welcome, 2ndchance, just by being here you are showing your W that you truly do care and love her and want to make a better M.
The A my H had devastated me, specially since we were exclusive from other people before we married. BUT, after all was said and done, the A wasn't the core of our problems, it was a symptom of something worse.
Since then, I have changed, seen my wrong ways and my H is a new person too. Our M is 10times better than before he left. The time he left was hell, the first months after learning of the A where even worse. But month after month I've healed, I am able to think of the A without condemnation, without anger, sometimes w/sadness, but that awful sting is gone.
It is possible, my H didnt' validate me nor tried to support me in that aspect, but God helped me heal and I wouldnt' change what i have now for anything in this world.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
