growing and healing

[WCW]

Frank, I see you post quite often about being the alpa male, being the man, and the discussion now on the thread in Newcomers.

I'd like to ask about the alpha male role and how it fits or coincides with an alpa female role. I don't want to lead, and I don't want to walk behind. Personally, I would prefer to take responsibility equally and shoulder to shoulder work thru life. That isn't always possible, sometimes someone needs to lead when they are more qualified. There are many times when H is the qualified person to take the lead, but he doesn't and I flounder around trying to 'get it done'. I have realized (duh) that I can be too quick to interject my opinion when he does lead, and I think I've gotten better at listening rather than trying to prove myself to him.

Question is - what would you suggest for a stong willed (bullheaded) woman to let or get her H to step out front and be the leader he used to be for the M and still is in many other areas of his life?