Making the leap - Hopefully wount Jinx it!

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true, lot s of times there is no healing because of the LBS's inability to move on and to make the past seem worse than it actually was.

I prob mention this book to you gals, but here it goes again: "healing the hurt in your marriage". It is a great book for people very hurt and who are trying to start over and who can't seem to forgive and move forward.

It seems impossible, but you CAN train your brain to stop going down the path of doom and hurt. With will power and w/replacing bad memories w/new you can leave the past behind, and are able to love like you haven't been hurt.

Remember Abraham and Sara? at almost 100 yrs old they both thought it was impossible to bear children. So God started first by changing their names, Abram became Abraham (father of all nations) and Sara became Sarai (mother of all nations). They were to call each other that well before they actually had Issac.
So here you have 2 very old childless, seemingly infertile people calling each other "mother" and "father" of nations. It had to begin in their minds, they had to have the right mindset before they were to become parents. Same w/us, it seems impossible now, but we must set our minds and act positively to then see results.

Let me post a bit of a great paragraph about working and rebuilding a M from the book I mentioned above:
"Nehemiah faced resistance continually throughout his project in Jerusalem. He had many enemies who did not want to see the wal rebuilt. They tried to stip up the peole against him, planting doubts in their minds...So when you set out to rebuild your marriage, be aware that the enemy will be there to discourage and deter you. It is specially difficult when such comments come from family members or close friends.

"The Jews in Nehemiah's day experienced plenty of doubt:"then the people of Judah began to complain that the owrkers were becoming tired,. There was so much rubble to be removed that we could never get it done by ourselves.

"Then Nehemiah had the people do an amazing thing: 'from then on, only half my men worked while the other half stood guard with spears, shields, bows, and coats of mail...The common laboreres carried on their work with one hand supporting their load and one hand holding a weapon. All the builders had a sword belted to their side.

"What an incredible response! No throwing in the tower for this wall-builder. He instruced the people to work with one hand and to defend themselves with the other.

"This passage of the Bible is so relevant to us today. When you are restoring your marriage R, you need to work hard and persevere when times get tough. You need to confront your doubts, realize they are not from God, and pray pray pray. At the same time, you need to be on the alert to defent your M from future attacks. Never let down your guard. Stand agaisnt anyting and everything that threatens to tear down what you are building up"