Make sure you find a counsler who is solution based, not one that runs like He Said/She said which will accomplish nothing. Your line in the 2nd paragraph appears that you both agree they neither of you are interested in pointing fingers or re-hasing ugly things. That's good.
You both have plans of great things in the future and I am envious of you both. Date Night, weekend plans together are all positives to me. And even if you can't get away once a month for what-ever-the reason, work related issues may come up, children issues (I don't know if you have any children, we have two, ages 11 & 9), things to look forward to, etc. These are all great signs and I wished I had those.
My Wife hasn't worn her wedding ring since June, but I have never nor will acknowledge it either. Knowing my wife, she is puzzled why I don't and probably thinks that once again in her mind, I have no clue as to what is going on around here. CY
