My goodness NM, I really have to echo Ellie and B-I on this....I think its imperative that you start making plans to separate yourself from this craziness....his indecisiveness, insanity, the OW (I can tell you, if someone called my house 19 times and left nasty messages, there would be hell to pay!). I admire your tenacity in doing what you think is best, but at some point you're starting to get diminishing returns my dear. He needs more help than either you or DB can provide.

I'm really sorry this is working out this way for you because even though I don't know you personally, you seem like a fantastic woman (who, incidentally, made me laugh hard enough to shoot twizzlers out my nose :-O ) You've personally dealt with a lot more sh*t than many others in your same place would have and you did it for what you thought is best. But it seems to me that things are quickly spiraling out of control here.

I know you evaluate where you are everyday and probably every minute of every day, but do give some consideration here to separating yourself from the craziness.

Wishing you all the best {{{{{{{{{{{{{NM}}}}}}}}}}}}

Rob


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