Very sorry to hear what he is doing. Don't know about the state you are in, but I expect it is no different than my own.
In my state, ANY debt created by either of you while M, is halfseeeees. Can't get away from it, until in some states you file a legal sep. from debt, etc.
No sep in my state ... but we sure do have fast track to D.
All too often the WAS feels no remorse about spending what they consider 50/50 resources or debt on a D that they believe you should share the cost of. Your L should be able to answer in detail, as well as how to get some control over this.
He does not intend to lie, he just can't stand feeling forced to be honest. He sees them as two different issues. Guilt about being a selfish self centered MLC "wannabe young"ster prevents them from honestly answering anything requiring an uncomfortable answer. They lie rather than explain themselves. This is their time .... all about me world ... not going to answer to anyone.
But ... it is not intended to hurt you ... just to rebel the same way a two year old would.
No mom ... I don't want to be good ... I want to be sneaky and bad!!!!!
