Other Woman's Perspective

[BluePoet]

I can understand how you feel exactly. However, I'd like to point out that this is still valuable to read. Some of us (probably more to the point of actual GALing) have a need to understand how the other woman thinks and how in heaven's name she decided to pursue a guy who should have been unavailable. I'm finding the conversation valuable.

Strangely we seem to get the OW's perspective more than OM's perspective. I wonder about that. I think women fool themselves into thinking it's "love" rather than lust more often than men do. But love has more of a dedicated feeling. No woman in love really wants to see a man lose his family and part of his wealth and then become disappointed with his life. She's blind if she doesn't see that *he* is part of the problem and needs to fix himself before walking away and blaming it on his partner alone.

My STBX wanted to not work on things "because of the pain". I'm sure that the majority of that pain was walking away from the thing that was giving him pleasure (ie. OW). Whether she continues to give him that pleasure or not, she has allowed him the choice to walk away. So what will he do when their relationship runs into trouble? She will then reverse her decision and expect him to work on it regardless of pain and issues, I would think. Unless she walks away first. By that time, he's lost everything -- for nothing.

No, I really feel it's a valuable discussion. It's obviously to the point that those who are the "other woman" advocate walking away as long as they are not the one being walked away from. Otherwise they would not give a man in a relationship any chance to hook up with them.

I think the moderators need to delete this post!

It actually makes me feel very unwell.

And I think it's about time to change my name.
(no longer Blue)Poet