You sound much better today...but your still obsessing over him coming and going, not saying anything to you...SO WHAT!!!
As 1210 said...You can't depend on anyone to make you happy...you have to BE happy!
Also...you don't know that he is sleeping with her everynight...you have no idea what kind of life they are having together...I dreamed my H was screwing his brains out every minute he was with OW....in fact it was not that way...He gave her a token each visit...and then wanted to go out and do things...
I still strongly believe that you are setting yourself up in WANTING him to ask you to go to parents...this is not good for you....it won't be good for him...and it will ulitmately make him glad to come back to her....remember last time!!!!
I don't like sounding so negative to you...but you need to stop all expectations...
As for telling him your getting a life...unless he asks if you if you want to go eat or do something and you have other plans...NO....if you want him to know take some pictures of you and your friends while your out and post them around you at work...this will remind you to be happy for the good times you are having also...
Your focus is still way too much on H...and not nearly enough on YOU...don't think about him...especially with her
Make no mistake I cherish the time I have with H...right now things are stressful because he quit his job and isn't going to look for anything until April!!!...We barely make the bills each month and I am going to be short pay for 2 weeks because of spring break...and my job is being threatened with contracting out...long story but big stress for me right now...
H has been home about a year now...I waited a year just to hear him say "I love you"...I poured myself into our relationship and welcomed him home...I had to endure knowing that he was here out of obligation and wanting to be a family again...he said this included me...but I had to live with the knowledge that he didn't love me...it was very emotionally difficult...sometimes I wondered if I could do this...or if it would really pay off in the end...it was HARD...in some ways harder then his being gone...
So take care...work on YOU...have fun and be happy!!!
