I don't see what other position you can take. If you assume she does want the marriage to fail, then this is all pointless. But I also think she would have left by now. I also agree with the reading between the lines by Blackfoot that she does not want the marriage to fail. She just doesn't want to give up control.
That also brings up another question. HD, if it came to D, do you think she would fight for full custody of your daughter, or 50/50, or nothing? Would it be too overwhelming for her to keep up her work pace, plus manage the home, plus take care of your daughter at least 50/50? It seems like she would have way too much on her plate. How do you think she would react if this were to happen? Could she manage?
