Whether you believe in God or not, it is wrong. Everybody knows that. You can rationalize until the cows come home, it is still wrong. If I wanted to sleep around I would never have gotten married. The ring on my finger means something.
I don't want to understand how or what the OW thinks. They have their own website called The Other Woman. It is filled up with tales of woe from OW who are so so sad because they do not understand why their lovers returned to their spouses after promising to give them the moon.
"But he said he loved me"
Whatever!
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.