Cobra: 1)Agree on a common objective. Have a strong marriage in which both partners can be true to themselves and each other. I'm walking the talk on that one, by sending the email. 2)Get her in touch with her feelings and what she really wants (which is to be loved). Awfully presumptuous of me to try to get her to do this, don't you think? She'll either decide to do this for herself, or not. 3) Get you two on the same team by appealing to her needs. I'm trying to show her we're on the same team. I've been playing by her rules, and it hasn't brought us together. I can SHOW her that we're on the same team by being honest with her, and by being true to myself.
And you know, Cobra, the letter is not necessarily about sex. It's about choices, willingness, and what a spouse might do to show the other partner that they are committed to the relationship.
