I have a question that I was hoping you good people could help me with? I have an opportunity to finally buy a motorcycle. Should I?
And, no, I do not believe I am going through a mid life crisis, at least, I hope not. I have talked to the DB coach and he has encouraged me to GAL, some sort of hobby. There are a lot of things I would like to do but this is one I wanted to pursue for a long time. My W never wanted my to get a bike for a long time because I was the breadwinner and she was afraid I would get hurt or killed.
I found a bike, not too old, that is not very much money, that I could buy. It is something quite different than what I have done in the past. It would be good for me to just ride somewhere, to get away.
My W is getting an apartment at the beginning of April but the timing is more coincidental. Each year I have been thinking about a bike around this time. My W has been thinking about getting an apartment for several months. Should I wait?
She has not talked about D again and she has given no indication what she wants, materially, if anything from a D. She wants to be independent so I may have to tell her L I want her to take some stuff. Then again, she could always change her mind and what everything.
I meant to also ask, should I "get permission" from my W before buying the bike?
She kind of asked before she bought her new car and then again about renting an apartment, even though she questioned herself in front of me about her reason for asking my permission.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
If she kind of asked, then return the favor, but do not ask her thoughts or permission. If she raises a fuss, you can always say, Look we are going seperate ways, this is something I alway wanted. I appreciate your worries about my safety, but I'm a big kid ok?
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
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MMF, IS buying this bike, going interfere with the bills? the kids?
If no, if you have the money set aside for this bike, and it will not hinder on anything else, then by all means, get a helmet and some chaps and be on your way.
Remember there is only one chappy in my life tho.
As for your W, I don't really think you have to ask permisssion for anything, She didn't ask for your permission , when she left you on this coaster ride
Jack, you and I should get on our respective bikes and visit mrs, chaps and all, dontcha think?
Mrs, I can still pay the bills even though her leaving with a new house (read larger mortgage), new furniture and other expenses does affect us but the bike is $2500 so it isn't too bad. Plus, I can always sell one of the kids.
mermaid, i can understand that.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
