First of all, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! I'm so glad to hear that you had such a nice, rewarding, fulfilling day of so many accomplishments.
I think it's very positive that your H invited you to breakfirst, first of all. Secondly, the compliments on your figure and hair - and asking for a second kiss when you left?!?! Penny, those are all very positive things - great baby steps for him. You obviously made an impact both with your wonderful appearance and your bright, sunny, calm, care-free attitude. Good for you! Be happy about these baby steps, but try not to get overly excited about them so that you're not getting your expectations up too high. That is something I have to work on as well. I let every good thing and every bad thing that happens affect me to the extreme - the never-ending emotional roller coaster.
I think your H definitely meant those things he said to you as compliments. Think about it... Did he HAVE to say those things to you? Only if you had asked him "hey, don't you think I look great" would he have been forced to address those things. But since he was the one who complimented you on his own AND asked for the extra kiss - definitely positive things, Penny. Good job on your hard work.
Glad to hear that you went shopping afterwards and had a good time. I'm looking forward to that as well.
Sounds like our situations are a bit similar with the business situation. It's really hard. Sometimes I'm glad we work together because I know I'll at least have some contact with him, but other times I hate it - I think it would be easier if I couldn't see him, if that makes sense.
I know what you mean about wondering if he's calling her, seeing her, with her, etc. It's enough to drive you crazy, isn't it? Last night when he left the office, I knew he was probably going over there, and it just tears me up. But, at least I haven't been snooping by driving by her house and/or checking his credit cards anymore. That helps, but it still hurts so much to know that he is MY H and is spending time with another woman - and that I'm just sitting here waiting while he does it! It's really twisted...
Glad your son is home for a few days this week. Use that as an opportunity to do some fun things and keep busy and just let go of this for a while - give yourself permission.
YOU CAN DO THIS, TOO!!! Congratulations on a wonderful day yesterday, Penny.
