Oh, and here's my draft (unsent) response to her email: Dear W, Thanks for your candid response. Your email has been on my mind a lot recently, but I needed it to sit for awhile before responding. You said that I had a choice regarding whether to be happy with who you are and what you are willing to do. I'm trying to understand what, if anything, you are willing to do, or to agree to, with regard to this subject. The reason I ask is because your email is pretty clear about what you are not willing to do: you are not willing to participate in any sort of schedule ("or required number") with regard to making love with me.
I hear your frustration with me in your second paragraph, yet I will continue to ask you about this issue. I had stopped, for a long time, and when I brought it up last month you seemed surprised that I was still pursuing it, as if I had given up on wanting to make love with my wife. Plus, if there is one thing I've learned from you and from your chosen religion, it is that we, both separately and as a couple, are ever-changing, like a river. I do not want to assume that your opinion is static, whether it's your opinion on sex, desserts, or religion. Love, Hairdog
