I thought perhaps it was time to start a new thread. My last thread is nearly a year old by now. It's amazing how time can fly when you're not functioning in crisis mode all of the time.
All of my threads have had a "new day" theme, and that still seems very appropriate. After all, every new day is still a new beginning. We are free of the hurts and mistakes of yesterday, and the day before us is a clean slate, full of successes, love, hope, action and possibilities.
I found this website and the DR/DB books nearly two and a half years ago. This website and the friends and the tools have been a great comfort to me in times of challenges as well as providing the support and concrete tools to move forward and make positive changes for myself, and not just for an R/M/WAS.
If you are new and have just happened to stumble onto my thread, then welcome. You are certainly in the right place. Here is a little recap of my sitch for you:
Me 45 SO 36 R1 began March '01 Bomb Sept. '04 I moved out out Oct. '04 (after living together for 1.5 yrs) SO has D16 who came to live with us I have grown children, one married, one divorced, 2 grandbabies Reconciled and began R2 July '05
We still are not living together again yet, and that won't happen for a couple of reasons. One is that I insist on being married before I live with anyone again. I made that decision long before the reconciliation with SO. I knew I did not want to be in that situation again, and if I was ever going to live with a man again, I would only do under that kind and level of commitment. (If you find any of my old threads, you will see that when we reconciled nearly two years ago, that was at the top of the list for SO...he's ready to get married.)
Secondly is that he needs to be able to focus on raising his teenage daughter, and dodging political bullets from his XW. He certainly doesn't need me in there making the situation any more complicated than it already is. I'm patient, and I can wait. The plan is to marry after D16 (nearly 17) finishes high school/turns 18. He has not yet formally proposed, but he's working on that part. It's not clear to me what the delay is in that part, but I'm not pressuring him, either. That was part of the problem previously -- he felt pressured about the M issue.
That's all I have time for now on my lunch break. Welcome to my new digs; I look forward to hearing from you.
He has not yet formally proposed, but he's working on that part. It's not clear to me what the delay is in that part, but I'm not pressuring him, either. That was part of the problem previously -- he felt pressured about the M issue. 
