EverHopeful. I think your friends are right. Only you will know when the time is right to move on. I think it is a gradual letting go and one day you just cross over to the other side. It is okay once you get there. It is a different time frame for everyone just like mlc.
What is mlc is a good question. Who really knows. We can discuss and try to understand it but sometimes I am just more confused.
This is why it is more important that we get on with our lives and just keep moving forward. We cannot stay stuck like the mlcer. That way like your friends the decision will be ours whether we take them back or not.