Question for those whose S's have had A's.....

[~Sol]

Look at it this way...He will have some blow ups even if he does come home. It's like throwing a pebble that skips on the lake. The first wave is a big splash, then it gets smaller and smaller as it goes further and further out. Those small ripples are still going to be there, but they won't be the enormous splash like when he moved out. Even after a year from now, there will still be "moments", but he will need your help in getting through them. One day, he will need to pick up the books that we are reading and learn how to deal with his emotions. We men are stubborn, and it's the women who really glue a relationship together. I admire you for that, and I see it in my W. My W is not going anywhere anytime soon. As far as I'm concerned, she still allows me a kiss and she still wears her ring. I'm sure we will get to the point where we are truly a couple again - I can see her trying to come back, but I am giving her lots and lots of space, even though I really suck at detaching!!!

Eventually your hubby will have to "get over it". I know I do. It's done, it happened, it stopped, and there's you waiting for him. He needs to grow up, but he also needs to do it on his time. And it sucks that we are the ones that need to be patient. We're the ones DBing, after all.

Here's a thought, next time he's visiting, or in the car, why don't you play the tune "Get Over It" by the Eagles?