"H said, "So, are you going to buy a ticket and fly down to babysit me?" to which I replied, "I have no desire to be your babysitter. If you want me to come and have some fun with you, I'd be happy to.""
Hmmm.... Your response here was a bit snarky...
How did he ask? Was he snarky or playful? Friendly? He may well want you to babysit him, not in treating him like a child, but in terms of being there for moral support for him in a difficult situation. He might be afraid of the trip himself, you know... Of course, I have no idea what his tone was.
In any case, better answers, some better than others depending where you are in your sitch:
"Sure, I'll be happy to fly down there to sit on you baby."
"Well, I wouldn't want to be your babysitter, but I wouldn't mind languishing in a hotel room all day waiting for you to come back and ravish me..."
"No, but I'd love to be your playmate."
or a bit tamer: "No, but I'd love to see you and have some fun."
or even simply: "No, that wouldn't really work for me."
Oddly, I think the "bit tamer" response here is the most needy and pursuing...
(Edited because in glancing at a couple of other posts, I'm not sure where you are in piecing or if H has even committed to working on the M...)
