I think that's how my H feels, he did tell me he is still afraid, afraid to trust, to put himself out there again, I wonder if this is how you feel, that if you totally trust her again she might hurt you again.
imLin's post tells of her H, that after 3yrs he was finally able to tell her ILY, so it prob takes this long. Maybe becasue you guys (men) internalize so much, it takes you so much longer to process hurt, that you remain distrustful for years. I want to say i'm being to my H, that I try my best to be a good loving wife, yet my H can't say he loves me, he is still afraid to do so.
How long can I stand that? I dont' know, I will give until I can't anymore I guess. For the time beign I feel loved and cared for, so that will have to suffice for now. Last year this time he was light years from me emotionally. And now he is next to me, gives me affection and wants me to be w/th him, we've come very far.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
