Thanks HB. I think it's pretty typical stuff. Well, basic facts are: I don't want a divorce. We didn't come to the decision to end our relationship together. We never can come to this decision together as long as it's infidelity that is driving her desire to end the marriage.
In my sitch, the OP has backed off, so there's really no external pressure. W is putting a lot of pressure on herself. She says she knows that happiness comes from within, but she can never be happy with me. Why can't I just accept this? Why can't I realize it?
We had a conversation a couple nights ago where we talked about quite a bit. I listened mostly. She told me how I was thinking, what I was doing etc, and I saw it ALL as projection and called her on it. Not sure if this was a smooth move, but it was the truth. She's so wrapped up in this desire to end things that she's making herself miserable in order to be rescued from the feelings by someone. The way she's done her whole life.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
