my H picked that day to say "I love you"...I haven't heard those three little/big words in almost 3 years..
Hey imLin, I just had to tell you, when if first saw "3 yrs" on your post, I thought "wow, thats a long time" but it seems that's what it will be on my case too. Had a talk w/H, too long to tell the whole story, but he still can't say ILY. I point black asked him if he loved me and he said he "cared"for me. That he still feels nothing altogether, when he is around other people, just in general, doesnt' knowhow to be w/the kids and stuff. He really messed himself up when he was away, and it seems like he is still piecing himself together.
I actually told him i couldnt' live like this for years and cried (had a hissy fit I guess)
Now I m much more calmer and I really want to tell him that even though he can't say those words I do feel loved. He is very good to me, is trying to be more lovign, is very considerate and helpful, somethign I couldnt' have said about him before he left. I'm thinking of writing a letter and tell him that, that he waited all those years for me to love him and be good to him, even as I acted like a witch sometimes. That this time last year we were polite friends and now I feel so much closer to him and that he is being a good husband to me.
Yes, it must take this long for a lot of people, we must take it one day, month at a time, you can't hurry love.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
