Thanks guys. What you say jack makes perfect sense. W saw D yesterday morning and really played with her like a pre schooler. Absolutely no sense of responsibility. I made the decision yesterday to have zero personal contact with W. It's just too painful for me. On Saturday I had to drive past OM's house twicw (couldn't avoid it this time) and her car was there all day. So much for me thinking things might be cooling off there. They're clearly not and it hurts me so much I think I'm best acting as if she doesn't really exist. OObviously there are the financial and house things to sort out, as well as D, but we can do those things without me having to see her face to face. I feel today like I may have seen her for the last tiime yesterday. That obviously feels really odd but I also feel some relief too. It really was too much for me having that turmoil twice a week. I texted her to say as much, a nice text which she responded to with a bit of a 'feel sorry for me, why are you picking on me?' text. I then sent a really supportive one back which said that I still loved her but that I thought this non contact was for the best for me. She responded 'take care'.
