H sleeping with me and OW.

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kikisum, I am doing the exact thing about getting a life that "runningoutoftime" said. It works. I joined a bowling club. I later told h about how the guy was seemingly interested until I told him that I have kids and how his face dropped. It was funny to see the guy's face. But it showed h that I am still HOT and he did get jealous. For a while, he wanted to know where I go all the time. I am open but I don't give him 100% information.
You can do it even with a little child. If you can find babysitter even for a couple of hours (think of the money spent as counseling). Regardless of the outcome, you want a network of friends. I called up many old lost friends and surprisingly, most of them are happy to strike up a friendship again. Although h is far away, you can always slip in info about "your night out" every so often, on the phone, when he comes over, etc.
GAL is the best thing I did so far. good luck.