Hey, Lin --

Thanks so much for your continued support and advice.

Regarding the trip to the parents, I am listening to what you're saying and know that you're on the right path. Maybe I just want to see what he will say - if he'll bring it up at all and if he does what he would say about it. Maybe it's just another way for me to build some sort of hope that if he DOES say he wants to go with me, it would be huge, but at the same time, I understand what you're saying that it probably isn't the right time just yet... I promise I will keep mulling this over and won't do anything before consulting first with you guys. For now, I'm just going to leave it alone.

And, yes, please DO hunt me down if I ever bring up to H that he was able to make time for her and not for me. I don't think I would ever actually say THAT to him. I guess I was just trying to point out that he CAN get away from the job site when he really wants to. That was my point. But I know I can't ever throw any of these painful things back in his face. I understand that I have to let it go. I was just pointing out that I know he can do it, and I think that that is something very important that we will need to work on in the future - leaving business at a reasonable hour and reconnecting as a couple.

Believe me, I think I'm already in DBing jail... But feel free to throw away the key until you think it's safe for me to come out... I hate this so much...