Now Surviving Separation

[Heartbroken]

H did go to our financial planner and told her I knew about this appt (she asked)but no I did not know they were meeting. He ws trying to see if he could use part of his half of the 401K to buy me out of the house - very costly to do!! He told me about the appt right afterwards but he still lied (again...) That was the closest thing he did as far as I know - he wanted us to decide to file together - or for me to say let's file ----but I NEVER entertained that thought either internally or extrernally. He wanted to go to arbitration and not even use lawyers - he wanted a "friendly" divorce (is there such a thing????). I would not make that decision - it would/will have to be from H. I think he's finally stopped thinking of filing for the first time maybe since Aug????!!! I know he's trying to get rid of the Ow - tonight, now as we speak I guess. But I do not think he's being honest with her in that he wants to work on his M and family. H just wants out and wants to be by himself... I doubt she's going to go easily but at least it's a start. No celebrating for me here - we are far from getting through the woods on all of this. Hell we have not even entered the woods!!! At least the emotional roller coaster has slowed down for the last few days!!!