Hmmmm. This is interesting to me. I guess I don't see where my advice to HD is all that much different than anyone else's... except that I have brought up a very specific thing HD could do that I know he has a passion for.
Can I ask you something? I'm not being argumentative here... but I remember when NOP started his 'push.' For the first 12 months or so... you all went to a schedule... and he was still frustrated. You all were doing Nookie... but still... he was seeking 'passion.' Then... in his 'Return to Passion' thread... things really changed for him... you wanted to explore your sexuality. Remember?
I remember him (and this was the very biggest change **I** saw in him) coming to the realization that YOU had your own needs, your own passions... he gradually began to understand that... he began to partake in YOUR life, even though what you were doing wasn't necessarily something he would choose for himself.
To me... and I could be wrong, so correct me please... this is when things began to change for you all. I KNOW you had some things that hit you right between the eyes... and I saw in NOP... at least in a delayed way... some things that hit HIM right between the eyes... that he, in his first 18 months of posting... never really got.
There's a question here... it's coming.
I'm wondering... if you can think back for me... just because I am curious... do you remember how it came about that you... found the... hmmmmm.... desire? want? impetus?... to explore your sexuality? I know it was not just from scheduled sex. NOP changed. What changed that you responded to?
He lost the anger. I know that. He became kind. It was over a period of time. Did he separate your finances? Did he all of a sudden become 'in your face?'
I'm just remembering... and I could be very wrong... but I'm remembering a subtle shift... and it seems to me that it came on the tail end of a realization on his part.
