Thank you Liz for your post. Thank you. thank you.
It helped me to read it, I do not feel so alone and confused and scared.
People who interfer in marriages get no sympathy from me at all. It is a lack of character, integrity and self. I will not say oh your good person, because clearly OW/OM are not.
To the original poster, the fact that you were cheated on in your own marriage and now are breaking up another's relationship, is this some sort of sick revenge or ego boost. Until you live and honest life and care about the well being of others, you WILL NOT have a happy life. You need to repent and do some serious soul searching. Leave that man ALONE.