Sigh....I am begging you now, Tam....don't don't don't talk to H about that visit to his parents....leave a note or VM or text...but don't talk to him...and don't ask if you are going together....that would be extremely detrimental right now...you HAVE TO LET HIM GO...using this visit will be an excuse to be with him and "play" wife...it WILL make him uncomfortable, YOU WILL over compensate as you did before and make things WORSE!!!
I would HIGHLY encourage you make another DB call and discuss this at length with Jody because you keep hanging on to this one..."his parents would be hurt, I don't want be the one to disappoint them, I don't want to be the one to break their hearts"...you MUST LET THIS GO....H is GONE TO YOU right now...you can't pretend....imagine the fiasco this would cause if you were in their home and had a "moment of dispair"?...Is that what you want them to remember of you...because that would probably be the straw that broke the camels back for your H...to embarass/humiliate him in front of his parents...Well you need to seriously seriously think about that....
The more time you spend APART right now the better for you both...don't assume he is spending all his time with her...and for goodness sakes when you do get back together if he doesn't quit work early to spend with you don't you DARE bring it up that he did for her...I will hunt you down and smack you silly...you have to let it ALL GO...or this WILL NOT WORK!!!!
I can't stress this enough to you....you are almost insistant on driving him away with excuses to be with him....his parents will get over it....that is NOT your problem...if he chooses to go ahead and go he might find the right time to talk to them....or if SHE calls they might figure things out...either way you MUST leave him ALONE...and don't EVEN call while he is there....I feel like you need to be put in DB'ing jail until this sinks into your brain....because your heart is being treacherous with you right now...it is being desperate and you are allowing it to lead the way!!!!
