Thanks Nop, Lou, and NJ for the congrats.
This has been a really great weekend and I feel like we've had another major shift in the R/M (for the better).

Let me give a synopsis of what happened Friday night:

I don't know is my H is reading the boards or if Nop sent him telepathic Nop 101 cliff notes LOL but it went just as hoped.

When he got home from work, I was standing in the kitchen doing dishes (nice touch, huh) He came right up to me and pinched my butt and gave me a nice kiss. \:D Said he was looking forward to going out.
That's when I used the line "let's make this a real date."
As I guessed, he knew what I meant and was more romantic than usual.
I chickened out about asking him to get my car door because it just seemed forced but he did the rest without any prompting! \:\)
When we got to the restaurant, we had to wait for table so he said let's get a drink at the bar. We walked over and he held out the chair for me. I noticed there were quite a few men at the bar and that H kept positioning himself facing me and putting his arm on the back of my chair (very protective) It was cute.
I was quite sweet and girlie myself and I think he was really picking up on that. He naturally became more masculine when I toned down "aggressive LFL", so that really worked!
When they called our table I noticed he put his arm on my back the whole way and Led me to the seat. Nice!
We had a great meal and then went on to the movies. He made several comments that he hoped it wasn't too long because he wanted to go home and have his way with me. Is this the same MrLFL I have been discussing this whole time??
It makes me think he was probably doing these things all along and it was ME that was ruining it all. But why go back in time and speculate. At least I am aware of it now and boy has it made a difference.
So we got home and we had the best sex. My H has always been the best at oral and I did as you said Nop, started out just laying there to let him lead. He did, and it was nice to not worry about "is this going to work." We were both so relaxed and comfortable with each other which made it so much better.
He noted afterwards that it was the best birthday present he could have gotten. \:\) He also said that he felt we were really in a good place in the M now and he was so happy.
I can't believe that a few changes in my own attitude made the whole R shift so much. But it really worked.
Probably because I was the one unwilling to fully commit like you said Nop and now he surely senses a change in me for the better. He has been busting his butt to rebuild the M since we reconciled and now I am putting in as much effort as him.
I guess the point is that it almost seems easy once the two people get their sh*t together. But if one person is dragging their heels, it can seem a monumental problem to overcome.
Not sure what people can take from this tale but I think one of the main factors is Respect. I was lacking it for my H and now I have it in abundance. That has totally shifted my attitude towards him, the M, and the SL.
So I guess I would say work on rebuilding respect before all else and the sexual R will follow.
Thanks for everyone's feedback. \:\)