Well, I'm highly emotional about this whole situation so I appologize too. I understand that this is drastic, but I think it's my husband's way of saying to his brother how seriously he feels about the OM, and how my husband is not going to allow the OM or anybody else (intentional or not) hurt our marriage anymore.
And yeah it's nearly impossible to tell everything that's happend over the past few years that led to the affair, led to my meltdown, and to the wedge that's been between the six of us. We all used to be really good friends, but that hasn't been the case as far as we are concerned for a really long time now. My husband's job for one prevents him from having time to do anything. They are teachers so they have off work all the flippin' time. (ie: spring break this week) Sometimes it seems like it's more convient for them to be friends with OM and his wife than us because of that. I'm just to the point that I agree with my husband. If that's the kind of people they want to associate with after knowing how we feel then we are just going to move on. We can't make a decision for them or tell them what to do, but we can make our own decisions about who has access to us and information about our lives.
Besides I know my SIL and she'll still wind up bringing up the OM even though she said she wouldn't. It's just something that we know is going to be a problem so this is how my husband has decided to fix it.
