I understand it is your H's decision that has brought you to this point...I wasn't suggesting otherwise and sorry if you misunderstood....
It sounds like there are a lot of dinamics here at play that aren't being disclosed....but then it would be hard to put it all out for anyone here to totally understand...it sounds like there might be bigger issues with the SIL/BIL...if they know of the sort OM is and yet seek to remain friends with him maybe there are things about them you don't know???...and don't want to know...
All I was saying is that to make the decision to cut off family over them remaining friends with someone that you are not longer associating with...is a drastic measure...your husband may live to regret that even though what they are doing by remaining friends with this man isn't the wisest move to make...I don't think I could do that with my family...and I know I have dealt with similar situations with my SIL when she cheated on her H...then ended up marrying the guy....long story....but I had to let things go and just remember that she was H's sister...
I hope things work out well for you both...and that it doesn't come to splitting the family apart over this....
I didn't mean to make you feel badly about what is in the past either....it is wonderful that you and your H are working things out...I am in the place of working things our with my H....it isn't easy and your H is a prize for trying with you....but then you have acknowledged that already...
I hope you realize I am not judging you or an anyway trying to be harsh with you...I was just trying to show another side to this that might become an issue down the road...(I gave up my brother for you)....I hope it never comes to that...but having been around a while I see lots of things happen...
So please accept my appologies if you felt insulted in this...it was not my intention...believe me, I feel for your situation....
