My husband has said that "the ball is in their (his brother's) court." We haven't been able to spend much time around my husband's brother and his wife over the last year due to my husband's new job. Husband works 6 days a week till late in the evening. Doesn't allow for much free time.
There's more to the story. When I lost my job last summer I went into a terrible depression. Not just because of losing my job, but my husband just started his new job working 6 days a week till late in the evenings and I didn't have anyone to talk to. My "family" who I had always felt close to pretty much abandoned me that summer. Anytime I heard from them it was them telling me about them going to the lake or hanging out with OM and his wife all summer long. THIS WAS BEFORE WHEN I WAS STILL TRYING TO BE FRIENDS WITH EVERYONE AND PUT THIS BEHIND ME... They said they never included me or invited me to do things with them cause my husband would be at work still and they didn't want me to feel weird being there alone. (Like I'm 12 yrs old and can't handle being around people that are supposed to be my friends without my husband????) It was insulting and hurt me a lot. Thus I got really depressed that summer as a result of everything combined with my lonelyness. I told them I wanted to hang out with them to help get my mind off my lack of a job and to have some human interaction. Finally them always telling me of what they did together started to just make me mad. I felt like they were flaunting it in my face. When I said something about it my SIL was like oh well we just didn't think you'd want to go. The whole thing was just terrible and it really made my husband mad at them for how they treated me.
Gawd I sound like I must be a horrible person to be around from that post. I assure you I'm not. Though that doesn't mean much when it comes from me does it? Oh well losing battle on that point.
Husband's lack of free time and the way they treated me that summer when he was always gone working and I was out of work and always alone was what started really putting a gap between my husband and his brother. It's weird. They are ok. They could talk or whatever, but their friendship is not like it used to be.
"He knew you told your husband but kept calling???
What exactly is his motive here? He wants to keep seeing you wreck your life but not let his wife know anything,..."
Thank you for seeing that!! He skates out of this situation smelling like a rose. They accept that his behavior is "just him." Meanwhile I told them of the affair to get him out of our lives and also because it would help me to explain my very emotional behavior over the summer re: dealing with the OM and their friendship with him. I was trying to be friends with him, but failing misserably. (Which was stupid of me to try to be friends with him after everything I know. I just wanted to forgive and forget. Then he'd flirt w/ me again right after he'd tell me something about his wife. He CONSTANTLY gave me mixed signals and messed with my head. Cause then he'd go back to "oh we've got to just be friends now, right?")
