Thanks Snodderly, It was left up to H whether he wanted me at christening and he chose not to include me. I work with BIL and am close to sil and told them I understood. H called while d11 and I were on our way to the mall to pick her up something to wear tomorrow. H called and asked what time we'd be home so he can drop off bday cards from h and his parents for s15. I told him s15 wouldn't be home but I would call him when we got home so he can drop off cards and see d11. He was crying. Saying he knew s15 wouldn't be home and s15 didn't want to see him anyway.
H arrived seconds after d11 called to tell him we were home. Must have been lurking nearby since he lives 15 min away. He came in and sat with d11 for a few minutes. I walked by said hello ( he barely acknowledged me) and when I went upstairs to let the dog out he and d11 got into an argument and he stormed out. NICE. She can be tough and he has no patience so ....he stormed out after she told him she knew she couldn't wear sweatpants tomorrow. I told her to call and apologize and she said she tried to apologize when he was stomping out. UGH.
SO he will be with his family tomorrow. Should be uncomfortable for all I am sure. We all used to be a tight family. Always together once a weekend for dinner or something. Now, the family hardly ever sees each other like they used to. The party tomorrow should be quick because it is so tense. I would love to be a fly on the wall to see h interaction.
Anyway, I'll hang back with s15 tomorrow and as he would say "chill". My dad says my H has fallen into a hole and can't figure out how to get out. I just don't understand how someone can sacrifice their R with their kids, their family and everything for the life he is leading now. Can someone explain this??
